Wednesday, March 24, 2010


My friend Drew has left the area to return to his 'real life'. He & his wife live up north and a few years ago they purchased a piece of land here to build a house and move to... then she changed her mind and doesn't want to do that. He has the house partly built and loves it here. From what he's told me, and I know it's just one side of the story, it sounds like a very unhappy marriage, yet one he feels he can't get out of. Old fashioned religious ideas seem to be what is keeping him there. I don't doubt he loves her, but I know he's not happy too. He says he tried to leave once, after she told him she doesn't even like him, and she was 'devastated', so he felt he had to stay. He told me lots of other things too, though I won't go into that here.

I met Drew at Toastmasters and I became his mentor as I needed credits for mentoring a new toastmaster for their first 3 speeches. Through this, we became good friends. Yes, friends. No sleeping together. I know he cares a lot about me, though, and I do about him too. My friend DJ asked me one day if he was single, or if he left his wife, would I want to be in a committed relationship with him. I don't know for sure what the answer to that is... though I know there is no point in finding that answer, or at least not at this time.

So, why am I telling you this?? Well, because, today I received 2 phone calls from Drew. I will miss the time we spent together, talking about Toastmasters and everything else under the sun.... driving around in the bush just enjoying nature with his dog and mine both in the back of the truck... seeing him at Sunday Service each week. I will miss much about this kind and wonderful man who greatly deserves better than he's getting out of life at this time.


clairesgarden said...

heartfelt hug to you, life is not easy sometimes.

Frank Zweegers said...

It's a shame some people live their lives, without really living it. I can imagine your friend Drew has a obligatory need that he has to take care of his wife. At least, it looks like he feels that way.
I hope in years he will try to live his life and be happy.
Best regards,